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Tribute to Mr. Herman Bullock

I took my time to begin writing this tribute for several reasons. Mainly, I wanted to prolong my pouting session if I am honest. I realized moping is counterproductive and not genuinely honoring my dad. Therefore, I opened my notebook and began to express my feelings.

On August 23rd, 2022, my father transitioned from this life into a realm where his ancestors reside. He taught me lessons about people and how to treat myself as I navigate life. He was a man of faith and an excellent dad. The mourning of my father runs deep and truly made a significant impact on me. Remember that mourning does not last, but memories can sustain me through this process. I plan to create a series to pay tribute to him. Thank you for journeying with me into how I celebrate the legacy of Mr. Herman Bullock.

Dad and Baby Carmen posing for Christmas

This year was the first year that he was not able to wish me a “Happy Halloween, Thanksgiving, Birthday, Christmas, or New Year”. The blessing that I was privileged to have for 43 years with him comforts me. I stood in front of the church congregation and heavenly hosts to speak about my father as we prepared for his homegoing service. I only remember a basic principle that he taught me when I was young. “Be your best self.” I directed that lesson to my young nieces and nephews who were trying to understand what was happening at the funeral, but I mainly needed to remind myself.

In life, some circumstances are out of your control. However, how you respond is what is within your control. You do not have to be fake or perfect, but simply real and strive to be your best self. When you work to be your best self, you align with your purpose and calling in life. Living and participating in your life experiences is essential to see the true beauty of the world.

The tribute speech concluded with a thank you to the gathered. My dad and I always had fun when we went to church. Whether for a function, service, or funeral, worshiping God was never a problem and gave you the strength to carry forward with your tasks in life. The love and support sent to our family during the sad occasion were overwhelming a deeply appreciated. We returned with my father to his hometown of Ridgeway, NC, and had a final Homecoming service in the guise of a Homegoing service.

I realized the truth. My father was a man of faith and did his best. I am a daughter of faith and will live my truth. Ms. Carmen Bullock married to become Mrs. Carmen Baylies; my sister is seeking her truth and purpose; and my brother is taking care of his family as my dad showed him. We were shown that God is real and the strength of our lives.

Dad, you earned the honor of ancestor and guardian, and I am proud to be your daughter and will always be proud of you.

Young adult Herman is about to head out.

Carmen was surprised by Dad showing up to her Gospel Choir performance at Greater St. Paul Missionary Baptist Church.

Father’s Day with the Girls at Bahama Breeze.

The dads stood as bookends as Peter and Carmen wed, and Johnea stood as the beautiful Maid of Honor. Photo Credit: Ariel Perry.

And Time to walk, so the wedding can start. Photo Credit: Ariel Perry.

Dad’s best impression of the secret service as Carmen and Johnea have a few sisterly moments. Photo Credit: Ariel Perry

A Valdosta Birthday Surprise

The marquis reads, "The Hallelujah Girls." — “The Hallelujah Girls”

When your husband knows how much celebrating family and friends projects and joys means, he offered a solution to combine a few of our favorite things. A friend, Joe, celebrated his birthday and debuted in a community theater play. To support him, we discussed sending a flower arrangement to help him remain excited. Peter saw an opportunity for us to enjoy a weekend getaway and surprise our friend. He threw out the idea to go in person. The notion thrilled me, and we began the travel plans.

First, a serene afternoon flight to Valdosta, Ga (Thanks, Delta!), and a quick rental car pick up from Avis. We checked in at our hotel and prepared for the weekend’s fun. Saturday morning, we jumped up, enjoyed breakfast, and then drove around town to see a few of the sights and scouted where we we going for the show.

Second, we returned to the hotel, The Drury Inn, and changed into our attire for the night. Ensuring flowers, birthday presents, and tickets were in hand, we set off for the surprise. With fantastic weather, we took a few moments to capture a few pictures of the entrance to the theater. While we hung out waiting for the doors to open, the birthday fella arrived with his daughter. He was indeed surprised we journeyed from North Carolina just for his debut. Mission Accomplished.

Third, the show was hilarious and fun. Joe did a wonderful job along with his castmates. After the show, we planned to grab breakfast before we headed back to the airport at Denny’s with his girlfriend. Wonderful fellowship and conversation rounded out the morning before our afternoon flight. Hopefully, we can come back if he decides to continue in his dramatic endeavor.

Finally, Peter and I returned the rental and prepared for the afternoon flight which was announced as delayed. The delay pushed passed our connecting flight, so with a few adjustments we booked a later flight and dined at the Atlanta airport at Iron Chef Cat Cora’s Kitchen restaurant – perfect after a long day of travel. We boarded our flight and ordered a Lyft car to drive us home. All and all, we embraced the moment and enjoyed the weekend.

Carmen pauses to take in the scene before the play begins. — Oh, What a lovely Saturday afternoon. We should take in a show!

Valentine’s 2024

February 14th, 2024.

The Baylies stepped out of the town and journeyed to Carrboro, NC. The Cheese Shop hosted this very posh event in this quaint town. Peter and I indulged as we learned of new cheeses and wines. The hosts delighted us with information regarding the featured menu, and their passion for their craft was displayed beautifully.

Peter and I celebrated five Valentine’s dates; one has a boyfriend and girlfriend. Although we try not to take for granted any time we dine together, setting aside special moments to reflect helps us stay connected. I am reminded that anything is possible when you exercise your faith. I am loved and love all the blessings I have.

Leap Day Breakfast

On this last day in February, I awoke early and prepared for a follow-up dental appointment since the appointment was at 8 am. – I held off on breakfast. The oral surgeon gave me an excellent report as he assessed his work and my progress. Peter drove me home after confirming the surgeon’s last follow-up session. The journey of repairing my smile, or at least the oral surgeon part, finishes with the upcoming check.

The moment we returned home, we made a beeline to the kitchen. My darling husband perked the morning beverage, and the aroma filled the kitchen to enhance our productivity. He toasted the bagels while I collected our plates, cups, and other breakfast items. The craving for this bagel was unreal and worth the wait.

Conclusion: Breakfast is an essential meal of the day, and when you make it with love, the experience is at the next level. Yum!

February 2024

Freedom – Beyonce featuring Kendrick Lamar
The Jump Off – Lil Kim featuring Mr. Cheeks
Love Song – 311
#41 – Dave Matthews Band
Rattle – Elevation Worship
Butterflies – Micheal Jackson
Thunder – Prince
Fantasy – Earth, Wind, and Fire
Islands in the Stream – Kenny Rogers and Dolly Parton
I Can’t Tell It All – Daryl Coley

2024 Summer Schedule Release: DMB

I received a notification that The Dave Matthews Band released their tour dates for the Summer of 2024. I scanned the city listings to see if Raleigh, NC, made the list, and it did!!!! My excitement level expanded.

Last year, the band skipped the Coastal Credit Union Music Park at Walnut Creek, and I felt somewhat deflated. My darling husband, Peter, offered an idea that brought the light back to me. He suggested we could travel to another city on the tour and have fun. I hoped we could check off a bucket list venue and get tickets to the Gorge Amphitheater over Labor Day weekend. He smiled and said, “I thought you might say that. ” Then he purchased tickets to at least one of the days. Astounded, I set my travel planner in motion, and we prepared to travel to the state of Washington.

The trip was phenomenal. However, the realities of my grief still plagued me as I lost a friend, Edrick McLaughlin, the week before the trip. With interesting symmetry, the musician Jimmy Buffett passed that weekend of the concert, and Dave Matthews worked through his grief on stage, which helped me grieve and release.

We only attended one day of the three-day concert, but it was what my soul required. So, fast-forward to planning this year. I am torn between returning to The Gorge and participating in all three days or making the Raleigh concert a real treat. Stay tuned for developments. In the meantime, enjoy the pictures from our Labor “Dave” 2023 experience. (Stay a while!)