The Super Bowl LVI brought me joy even though my favorite team was absent. The Los Angeles Rams versus The Cincinnati Bengals revealed girth and heart throughout the game. Peter and I hosted my stepdad, Chris Blue. My mom was out of town, aiding to help her sister in recovery from surgery. Between Chris, my dad, and a few friends, the knowledge and intricacies of the sport keep me riveted to the show of the season.
The table was set with fun game day snacks, and we had a ball playing Monopoly, Durham style. With a decent game, fun commercials, and incredible food and company, the highlight stamped in my mind was the halftime show performances.
The game is set.
The collaboration of Hip Hop Legends taking the stage reenergized my spirit for the next half of the game and my nostalgia. Dr. Dre, Snoop Dogg, Mary J. Blige, and Eminem dazzled the field while invoking the joy of great house parties and the incredible music of my young adult life. After the show completed its spectacular celebration, the game and crowd awakened with contagious enthusiasm that compelled me to watch the last two quarters.
The first two quarters felt lackluster to be a super bowl caliber appearance. The players came to play with intention and vigor in the third and fourth quarters. The final score of 23 – 20 sealed the Los Angeles Rams’ fate as the victors.
Always, Keep Pounding, people! My beloved Carolina Panthers have a new level of excellence to strive for this coming season.
I took my time to begin writing this tribute for several reasons. Mainly, I wanted to prolong my pouting session if I am honest. I realized moping is counterproductive and not genuinely honoring my dad. Therefore, I opened my notebook and began to express my feelings.
On August 23rd, 2022, my father transitioned from this life into a realm where his ancestors reside. He taught me lessons about people and how to treat myself as I navigate life. He was a man of faith and an excellent dad. The mourning of my father runs deep and truly made a significant impact on me. Remember that mourning does not last, but memories can sustain me through this process. I plan to create a series to pay tribute to him. Thank you for journeying with me into how I celebrate the legacy of Mr. Herman Bullock.
Dad and Baby Carmen posing for Christmas
This year was the first year that he was not able to wish me a “Happy Halloween, Thanksgiving, Birthday, Christmas, or New Year”. The blessing that I was privileged to have for 43 years with him comforts me. I stood in front of the church congregation and heavenly hosts to speak about my father as we prepared for his homegoing service. I only remember a basic principle that he taught me when I was young. “Be your best self.” I directed that lesson to my young nieces and nephews who were trying to understand what was happening at the funeral, but I mainly needed to remind myself.
In life, some circumstances are out of your control. However, how you respond is what is within your control. You do not have to be fake or perfect, but simply real and strive to be your best self. When you work to be your best self, you align with your purpose and calling in life. Living and participating in your life experiences is essential to see the true beauty of the world.
The tribute speech concluded with a thank you to the gathered. My dad and I always had fun when we went to church. Whether for a function, service, or funeral, worshiping God was never a problem and gave you the strength to carry forward with your tasks in life. The love and support sent to our family during the sad occasion were overwhelming a deeply appreciated. We returned with my father to his hometown of Ridgeway, NC, and had a final Homecoming service in the guise of a Homegoing service.
I realized the truth. My father was a man of faith and did his best. I am a daughter of faith and will live my truth. Ms. Carmen Bullock married to become Mrs. Carmen Baylies; my sister is seeking her truth and purpose; and my brother is taking care of his family as my dad showed him. We were shown that God is real and the strength of our lives.
Dad, you earned the honor of ancestor and guardian, and I am proud to be your daughter and will always be proud of you.
Young adult Herman is about to head out.
Carmen was surprised by Dad showing up to her Gospel Choir performance at Greater St. Paul Missionary Baptist Church.
Father’s Day with the Girls at Bahama Breeze.
The dads stood as bookends as Peter and Carmen wed, and Johnea stood as the beautiful Maid of Honor. Photo Credit: Ariel Perry.
And Time to walk, so the wedding can start. Photo Credit: Ariel Perry.
Dad’s best impression of the secret service as Carmen and Johnea have a few sisterly moments. Photo Credit: Ariel Perry
