I took my time to begin writing this tribute for several reasons. Mainly, I wanted to prolong my pouting session if I am honest. I realized moping is counterproductive and not genuinely honoring my dad. Therefore, I opened my notebook and began to express my feelings.
On August 23rd, 2022, my father transitioned from this life into a realm where his ancestors reside. He taught me lessons about people and how to treat myself as I navigate life. He was a man of faith and an excellent dad. The mourning of my father runs deep and truly made a significant impact on me. Remember that mourning does not last, but memories can sustain me through this process. I plan to create a series to pay tribute to him. Thank you for journeying with me into how I celebrate the legacy of Mr. Herman Bullock.
This year was the first year that he was not able to wish me a “Happy Halloween, Thanksgiving, Birthday, Christmas, or New Year”. The blessing that I was privileged to have for 43 years with him comforts me. I stood in front of the church congregation and heavenly hosts to speak about my father as we prepared for his homegoing service. I only remember a basic principle that he taught me when I was young. “Be your best self.” I directed that lesson to my young nieces and nephews who were trying to understand what was happening at the funeral, but I mainly needed to remind myself.
In life, some circumstances are out of your control. However, how you respond is what is within your control. You do not have to be fake or perfect, but simply real and strive to be your best self. When you work to be your best self, you align with your purpose and calling in life. Living and participating in your life experiences is essential to see the true beauty of the world.
The tribute speech concluded with a thank you to the gathered. My dad and I always had fun when we went to church. Whether for a function, service, or funeral, worshiping God was never a problem and gave you the strength to carry forward with your tasks in life. The love and support sent to our family during the sad occasion were overwhelming a deeply appreciated. We returned with my father to his hometown of Ridgeway, NC, and had a final Homecoming service in the guise of a Homegoing service.
I realized the truth. My father was a man of faith and did his best. I am a daughter of faith and will live my truth. Ms. Carmen Bullock married to become Mrs. Carmen Baylies; my sister is seeking her truth and purpose; and my brother is taking care of his family as my dad showed him. We were shown that God is real and the strength of our lives.
Dad, you earned the honor of ancestor and guardian, and I am proud to be your daughter and will always be proud of you.
